“Every Scar Tells a Story” – Nashville Star Sums Up the Art of Self-Love in One Facebook Post


Clare Bowen, who stars as Scarlett on ABC’s Nashville, is known for her beautiful, long blonde locks. Then she did something drastic, and cut them all off, and she took to Facebook to explain why.

“Wanna know why I cut it all off?

When I was four years old, I asked my mother; “Are there heaters in Heaven?”

I had just been diagnosed with end stage nephroblastoma, after several visits to a GP who denied anything was wrong and dubbed my parents “paranoid.” I’d overheard the doctors telling my family that the only hope of saving me, was an experimental treatment that might kill me anyway. But without it I had maybe two weeks left. The hospital was cold. I’d never felt air conditioning before.

Life in the White Palace (Granddad’s nickname for hospital) meant I got to grow up surrounded by children just like me. We were mostly bald, all tubed, taped, bandaged up and stitched back together. We were all missing parts, some obvious like eyes or legs, others more hidden, like lungs and kidneys. Those who still could, tip-toed around like little fairies because chemotherapy had destroyed the muscles in our legs and it hurt to put our heels on the floor. But we were all together, so no one’s appearance came into question. No one got laughed at or teased. We were all we knew.

And then I got really lucky. I survived, my hair grew back and I got strong again. I look relatively normal on the outside, but on the inside, I am still the same stitched back together little creature, in a world where people are judged so harshly for the way they look. It has always been completely incomprehensible to me. How can people think there’s time for that?

I was really inspired when I heard a story about a little girl who said she couldn’t be a princess because she didn’t have long hair, and I wanted her, and others like her to know that’s not what makes a princess, or a warrior, or a superhero. It’s not what makes you beautiful either. It’s your insides that count… even if you happen to be missing half of them.

Every scar tells a story, every baldhead, every dark circle, every prosthetic limb, and every reflection in a mirror that you might not recognize anymore. Look deeper than skin, hair, nails, and lips. You are who you are in your bones. That is where you have the potential to shine the brightest from. It is where your true beautiful self lives.

Thank you ABC network and particularly our creator, Callie Khouri for letting me change Scarlett’s hair, and my team, family and friends for helping me make the decision. If it makes even one person think twice about judging another, then in some small way, the world is better.

Self-esteem takes a lot longer to grow back than hair.

Damn. Does anyone else have chills right now?
I always find it highly admirable when a celebrity takes the time to use their influence to make a powerful and positive statement.
Any troubles I had as a child pales in comparison to Clare Bowen spending her youth living in a hospital and fighting for her life. As heartbreaking of a story as it is, she tells it so beautifully that you can feel the impact of every word. She’s definitely the hero of her own story.
She ended with the hashtag “#BeautyWithin”, but I actually think there’s 5 major takeaways from this post.
  1. Life is SHORT. Don’t waste your time obsessing over appearance, and especially don’t waste it judging others for theirs.
  2. We can become anything we want to be, as long as we believe in ourselves, treat ourselves with the love and compassion we deserve, and don’t listen to the people who tell us we’re not good enough.
  3. “Every scar tells a story,” I loved this bit so much that I put it in the title. Sometimes the parts of us that we think are “flaws” are actually the most interesting thing about us. They make us unique, they show where we’ve been and how we got to where we are today, they represent our journey in life. The things that she lists – scars, bald heads, dark circles, prosthetic limbs, and unrecognisable reflections – are thought of as weaknesses, when in fact, they represent the resilient strength we mustered up to keep going, not to give up.
  4. Physical appearance changes constantly – through weight loss or gain, applying makeup, changing hairstyles, updating our wardrobe, etc. – but by choosing to focus on building our self-esteem rather than our image, the changes in our appearance will never affect how we feel about ourselves.
  5. And lastly, she made a shining example of expressing gratitude for the supportive people in her life and the opportunity to make a difference in the world – even if ever so slightly.
I commend you, Clare Bowen. Bravo.
Bre Fowler

Hi, I'm Bre - the founder of The Positive Change Co! In early 2015, I left my familiar life in Seattle, WA behind to travel the world and become a digital nomad. Traveling as a LIFESTYLE completely transformed me. It was during my first big trip abroad in SE Asia and Australia that I found my passion for healthy living, addiction for personal growth, and a profound sense of purpose in the world. The Positive Change Co. is about more than just eating healthy and taking care of your body, it's about becoming the best possible version of yourself so that you can offer your best self to others and live a more meaningful life.

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