Starting Over Again When Your “Calling” Doesn’t Work Out

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Have you ever thought you knew exactly what you wanted to do with your life only to realize it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be? Or devoted extensive amounts of time to one thing only to fail where others have succeeded?

If you answered yes to either of those questions, I know you feel. Starting over again is never an easy process, I should know after failing at my “calling”.
The Plan.I had plans. BIG plans. I thought I had a shining bright future ahead of me as a travel blogger. So I quit my secure, good-paying job and set out to see the world.
I was going to spend the rest of my life jetting off from one place to the next (in first class, obviously) while getting paid to promote exotic travel destinations and 5-star hotels around the world.
But as Forrest Gump’s momma would say…
Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.
One year later. I’m writing this from the attic of a backpacker hostel where I’ve been living for the past month in a tiny town in central Tasmania and trying to figure out how I’m going to afford to eat next week. And I also don’t have a travel blog anymore.
After nearly a year, the travel blog that I had poured my heart and soul into was destroyed by a hacker – and I’m actually kind of grateful for that asshole. Because I was wasting my time on something that was going absolutely nowhere.
Not only that, but I realized that I didn’t want to be a travel blogger. After experiencing what it was like to actually be one (albeit an unsuccessful one), I felt like it took the fun out of traveling for me.
I was basing my decisions on what would make a good story on my blog rather than being in the present moment and enjoying the journey.
Traveling was becoming stressful and I felt like I was still living by other people’s expectations and schedules rather than my own – even though I was traveling solo.
And more importantly, I didn’t feel like it was something that would ever actually make a difference in people’s lives, which made it far less fulfilling for me.

So really, the hacker who destroyed my travel blog kind of did me a favor. As it turned out, being a travel blogger wasn’t my calling after all.

Finding Purpose.
It wasn’t an easy decision to come to, but accepting that travel blogging wasn’t my calling is when I really began to thrive. I thought long and hard about all of the mistakes I made with my travel blog from a business standpoint, as well as what direction I wanted to head in moving forward.
Initially, I thought I could just transform my travel blog into something else – keeping the name and branding all the same (out of sheer laziness more than anything). But it was too personal. And I had decided I wanted to completely detach myself from my next project.
I brainstormed a thousand different ideas of what I could build next.
I asked myself questions like:

  • What do you enjoy reading and writing about?
  • What do you lose track of time doing?
  • How can you make an impact on other people’s daily lives?
  • What kind of people do you want to make that impact on and bring into your life?
  • What people and brands have had an impact on your life, that you could put a unique spin on?

From there it all started to become very clear.

Personal Growth. I spend heaps of time working on my own personal development. Reading and listening to books, blogs, social media stories, podcasts, and email newsletters that will help me grow as a person, maintain a positive outlook on life, take action towards the goals I want to achieve, and leave the world a slightly better place than where I found it.
I spend so much time on learning, implementing, reflecting, and growing, that I sort of became an expert on the subject without even realizing it. And ever since the idea struck me, it has consumed my every thought and lit a fire in me I didn’t even know I had!
I didn’t want to do this half-assed though, so a lot of blood, sweat, and tears have gone into building this site and figuring out how I could make the most impact. I ultimately decided on habit-based nutrition as the foundation for positive change and growth.

Sometimes we have to fail to find our true calling and build something more meaningful and powerful than we ever could have imagined.

Starting Over Again Action Steps

If you’re stuck in limbo, anxious about starting over gain, and not really sure what your calling is or where to go from here, start by asking yourself the same questions I did.
  • What do you enjoy reading and writing about?
  • What do you lose track of time doing?
  • How can you make an impact on other people’s daily lives?
  • What kind of people do you want to make that impact on and bring into your life?
  • What people and brands have had an impact on your life, that you could put a unique spin on?
Brainstorm. Get out pen and paper, and just start listing of everything that pops into your mind for 20-30 minutes without pause. Once you’ve got all of your ideas out, read back through the list and take note of the ones that give you that little spark of excitement.
Pick your top 3 ideas, and do some research. See what other people are already doing that is similar, and how you could put your own twist on it to offer something new and exciting. No need to reinvent the wheel (is that even possible anymore?), just come at it from a new perspective (yours!).
Feel free to shoot me a message and bounce ideas off me as well. I’m happy to help in any way I can!
Bre Fowler

Hi, I’m Bre – the founder of The Positive Change Co!
In early 2015, I left my familiar life in Seattle, WA behind to travel the world and become a digital nomad. Traveling as a LIFESTYLE completely transformed me. It was during my first big trip abroad in SE Asia and Australia that I found my passion for healthy living, addiction for personal growth, and a profound sense of purpose in the world. The Positive Change Co. is about more than just eating healthy and taking care of your body, it’s about becoming the best possible version of yourself so that you can offer your best self to others and live a more meaningful life.

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