If You’re Not the Hero of Your Own Life Story, You’re Doing it Wrong

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Write your own life story.

Life is like a book, and you are the author of your own, individual story. You also happen to be the main character of that story – also sometimes referred to as the “hero.” But that’s a title you have to earn.
Over the course of your life, your story will be full of new chapters – some good, some bad.
But each morning you will wake up to a fresh page waiting to be written.
And you have the power to choose how the story will unfold – which direction it will go, the actions the hero (you) will take, and how that page will lead into the next and set the entire tone for the rest of that chapter.
As each page is being written in your life story, you can mess up, cross out, scribble, makes notes – whatever you need to do, but the tricky thing you have to realize is this:

At the end of the day, that page is published and can’t be unwritten or torn out.

Sure, we all have pages we would love to rip out of the book, throw in a blazing fire, and smile wickedly as we watch the ashes drift away into oblivion. But unfortunately, the pages are bound by an unbreakable force.
The good news is we can learn from our mistakes on those pages, and fix them on the next one.

A good book can never be written by winging the whole thing.

It takes brainstorming, structure, an outline of how you’d like it to turn out, and a lot of patience and persistence.

Think back to the last couple months of pages in your story, and ask yourself these 5 questions:

  1. Does this story excite me?
  2. Would I read it aloud?
  3. Is the main character likable?
  4. Do I want to high-five the main character for the things they’ve accomplished?
  5. Do I like the direction the overall story is heading?
Maybe you’re looking back on recent pages and think, “Damn, my main character is really lazy.
Only you can change that. So brainstorm what your character could do starting on the next page (which is tomorrow) to be less lazy and more productive. Laziness is for background characters, the passersby, don’t be a passerby in your own life story. Be the damn hero.
That might look like waking up earlier to exercise in the morning, giving yourself a strict limit on how much time you’re allowed to watch Netflix or scroll through social media each day, or taking up a new hobby or sport.
On the other hand, maybe you’re thinking something more along the lines of “Damn, my main character is a total badass.
Then brainstorm some monumental actions you can take that will shoot you a hundred miles ahead and make it happen! Take a big risk and do something that other people tell you is impossible. Go on with your badass self. 

We may get to choose how our story unfolds, but we don’t get to decide when it ends.

Remembering that our story can come to an end at any time is a great way to make sure that we’re making the most out of every page. If the page you’re on right now (today) was the last page written about your life, would it be a good ending?

Would reading your life story leave you feeling satisfied or disappointed by the hero’s journey that led up to that point?

It may be a cliffhanger, sure, but did the main character become the hero of the story or was the entire thing just one of those books that makes you want to stab your eyes out with a fork?

Most people aren’t ready for their story to end. Once it does, that’s it. No more edits, no more plot twists, no more adding pages. The book is published and put on display.

All stories must come to an end eventually, but the really great ones will live on forever as legends.

The epilogue comes after the story ends. But it’s out of our control.

The epilogue of our story comes from what we’re remembered for. It’s the overarching message of our life story as a whole, the accomplishments of our hero (or lack thereof if you never became the hero), and the lessons that can be learnt from both.


Actions Steps

Taking the time to reflect on your life story leading up to this point, as well as planning a general outline for where you want it to go, will give your story structure, purpose, and a world of potential.

By keeping a journal and actually physically writing it down, you’ll experience exponential growth from keeping those lessons learned and goals for the future at the front of your mind.

Write down your answer to the following questions in your journal:

  1. When looking back at the beginning of your life story, what expectations or hopes did you have for the direction the story and hero would take?
  2. Identify the areas the storyline or heroes actions are weak, and write down 3 lessons that could be learned from it to make them stronger.
  3. What is your worst habit or drawback currently that is preventing you (or otherwise interfering) from being the hero you want to be?
  4. When your story ends, what do you want to be remembered for? Write it as a one sentence epilogue.
  5. Set 3 heroic goals for the next week. They don’t have to be monumental, but they should challenge you at least a little bit and leave you with a sense of accomplishment. Keep them next to your bed and read them first thing in the morning to give your day a sense of purpose.

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Bre Fowler

Hi, I'm Bre - the founder of The Positive Change Co! In early 2015, I left my familiar life in Seattle, WA behind to travel the world and become a digital nomad. Traveling as a LIFESTYLE completely transformed me. It was during my first big trip abroad in SE Asia and Australia that I found my passion for healthy living, addiction for personal growth, and a profound sense of purpose in the world. The Positive Change Co. is about more than just eating healthy and taking care of your body, it's about becoming the best possible version of yourself so that you can offer your best self to others and live a more meaningful life.

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